Every Friday, write 3 feedbacks (positive + constructive) for 3 people and deliver by Monday.

Deliver effective feedback in 3 parts (Situation—Behavior—Impact) so the other person hears you without defensiveness.

Fixed micro-ritual before each block (coffee, breath, music) primes mind.

Phrase every feedback in 3 sentences: situation, specific behavior, impact — no interpretation.

Sort your feedback on care personally × challenge directly — sweet spot: high in both.

Don't hoard feedback until annual review — give within 24 hours of event.

Write four sentences: Describe the behavior, Express the impact, Specify the change, Consequences.

When criticized, ask: "what specifically in X bothers you?" — forces clarity.

French/Dutch tolerate direct critique; East-Asian needs it wrapped.

Anonymously ask Edmondson's three questions to score your team's psychological safety.

Prep your 1-on-1 with SBI + GROW: situation, behavior, impact, then open GROW questions.

Write a specific SBI thank-you to one colleague every day for two weeks.

Create a 30-min weekly family meeting with fixed agenda: gratitude, challenge, plan.

Design a fixed monthly ritual (call, voice memo, postcard) for a distant friend.

End every meeting with: what worked (+) and what we change next time (Δ).

After any delegated task completes, deliver feedback in Situation-Behavior-Impact format.

Last 3 minutes: what worked? What do we improve next meeting?

Every two weeks, each member gives one peer specific feedback in a fixed format — no waiting for the annual review.

Frame feedback in 3 sentences: Situation, Behavior, Impact — strips bias, refocuses on behavior.

A 2×2: "Care Personally × Challenge Directly". Know which quadrant you're in with each report.

30 min with a top performer, 5 questions on "why you stay and why you might leave" before they actually consider leaving.

Ask 8 people around you 3 questions: what do I do well? what should I stop? what would you stop me from doing if you saw?

4 steps: Describe (situation), Express (impact), Specify (change), Consequences (outcomes).

All phones and TV out during dinner — at least one daily meal.

Build a consistent three-step bedtime ritual — cuts bedtime resistance 70%.

Three tiny daily rituals (waking, reunion, bedtime) build the secure base for all of childhood.

A short, honest, predictable goodbye — shrinks separation anxiety at daycare/grandparents.

At dinner, each family member shares his biggest mistake of the day — normalizes failure and reinforces growth mindset.

Each week, spotlight a different talent per child — no comparisons.

After the model answers, ask it to critique its own answer and improve it before final delivery.

Block 90 daily min for deep work with no phone, email, or colleagues — with a fixed startup ritual.

Each evening, 5 min formal workday shutdown — with a secret phrase ("Schedule shutdown complete") to free your brain.

Don't track news daily. Read one weekly summary (Economist, Atlantic). Gain time and clarity.

3-min start ritual + 3-min end ritual = brain signal "now focus / now done".

Every 3 months, sit as a family to review your tech agreement — kids grow and rules must grow with them.