Instead of imposing a fix, collaborate with your child to solve concerns of both — Ross Greene method.

When your emotion doesn't serve the situation, do the opposite of what it pushes you to.

Replace vague "good job" with specific praise describing: what he did, impact, why it matters.

Instead of "I want to run a marathon", say "I'm a runner" — identity drives behavior.

Don't target "$100K this year" — target "3 sales calls daily".

Each month, write 3 behaviors to start, 3 to stop, 3 to continue.

Write four sentences: Describe the behavior, Express the impact, Specify the change, Consequences.

In tough confrontation: Describe-Express-Specify-Consequence — four sentences resolve.

Describe, Express, Specify, Consequence — a template to disarm any recurring quarrel.

Ask "why?" five times on a recurring fight's root — discover the real cause.

Per recurring meeting: "does it produce decision/action?" — if no, kill it.

Identify 5 feelings that make you open phone. Per feeling, alternative plan pre-touch.