Your child's choices aren't a reflection of your worth as a parent — practice separating your identity from his decisions.

Within you are parts — critic, scared, child. Meet them one by one.

Beneath noisy parts is a calm curious compassionate "Self" — meet it.

Ask 3 who know you to tell you "who you are in their eyes" — discover forgotten self.

Draw self as symbol/animal/scene — discover self unconsciously.

Tell self "it makes sense to feel this" — don't contest.

Each month, write 3 behaviors to start, 3 to stop, 3 to continue.

Name your speaker's feeling and confirm it is reasonable, before you propose any solution.

When he speaks, name feeling: "sounds frustrated" — labeling calms emotions.

When triggered, ask self: "what unmet human need?".

Name your child's feeling precisely before you try to fix the situation.

A teen's friendship breakup can hurt like a romantic one — don't minimize it with "you'll find other friends."

Each month's start, search your name on Google and review the first 3 result pages.