Convert mutual critique into a two-way SBI meeting with 5-whys for root cause.

Ask "why?" five times on a recurring fight's root — discover the real cause.

Don't treat symptoms. Ask why five times to reach the root cause.

Improve any process via a weekly four-stage loop: Plan, Do, Check, Act.

For each problem, ask "why?" five times in a row to reach the root cause.

Draw a "fish skeleton" of the problem: head = issue, bones = cause categories.

In any system, identify the slowest process — it caps the whole system.

In dynamic problems, cycle OODA faster than the adversary.

A conscious repair that goes beyond apology — it examines the root of the reaction and changes the pattern, not just repeats it weekly.

Instead of imposing a fix, collaborate with your child to solve concerns of both — Ross Greene method.