Shake body 5 min like an animal escaping danger — discharges stress hormones.

Long low "Voo" sounds stimulate vagus nerve and calm heart.

Spontaneous muscle tremor after a position — discharges deep nervous tension.

Sway foot to foot 5 min — mimics mother's soothing of child.

One hand on head, one on chest — contain yourself sensorily.

5 min run, pillow punch, towel scream — body cleans.

Use five body cues (Square, Open, Lean, Eye contact, Relaxed) to make your speaker feel safe.

When provoked, don't reply for 90 seconds — the neural wave scientifically subsides.

When pulse passes 100, call a 20-min time-out — physiology needs time.

In suffering, apply Neff's 3 steps: acknowledge, common humanity, self-kindness.

5 min before the event, do 4 cycles of 4-inhale, 7-hold, 8-exhale — your nervous system calms.

4-4-4-4 for 8 cycles — calm focus starts at the breath.

In a waiting room before a hard meeting: discreet 5-5 breath for 4 min.

Before entering, press thumb on index with deep inhale — a ready calm anchor.

When anxiety hijacks attention, silently name 5 colors in the room — attention leaves the body.

Defuse public-speaking nerves with box breath + restructure "everyone is judging".

When someone near you is distressed, lower your own voice and pace first — your calm body lends calm.

When your mood dips mid-social-day, apply a 90-second intervention before it spoils your interactions.

Convert your daily meeting to 15 minutes standing, three questions per person, then dismiss.

Dedicate five full days for a focused team to solve one problem at the root — not an hour-a-week meeting for months.

Calm yourself first — your nervous system calms the child's via physiological synchronization.

Say firm "no" with warm "I understand" — Janet Lansbury's classic formula.

Offer only two choices for each small decision — respecting his autonomy without losing yours.

Daily sensory protocol (weight, movement, deep pressure) reduces SPD child meltdowns.

When child melts down, step one = your own 4 breaths. You can't calm someone you're igniting with.

When you blow up, give yourself a time-out before giving one to your child. Benefits all.

Gentle wrestling and chase games aren't violence — they build nervous-system regulation and physical confidence within clear rules.