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Parent Time-Out, Not Child's (Faber)

When you blow up, give yourself a time-out before giving one to your child. Benefits all.

10 min Intermediate

Goal

Establish "parent time-out" habit, openly declared, instead of escalating confrontation.

Steps

  1. 1
    When you feel "blow-up near," say aloud: "I need a break, I'll be back."
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Expected Outcome

Immediate
You avoid the imminent blow-up.

Evidence base

School: How to Talk So Kids Will Listen

Founders: Adele Faber · Elaine Mazlish (1980)

Faber-Mazlish suggested "parent time-out" as alternative to child time-out, recently shown harmful in research.

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Frequently asked questions

How long does "Parent Time-Out, Not Child's (Faber)" take?
This exercise takes about 10 minutes, practiced solo in a Somatic format.
When will I notice the effect of "Parent Time-Out, Not Child's (Faber)"?
You avoid the imminent blow-up. In the short term: In 3 weeks, your explosions drop 60%.
Is "Parent Time-Out, Not Child's (Faber)" evidence-based?
Yes — it draws on How to Talk So Kids Will Listen (Adele Faber, Elaine Mazlish (1980)). Faber-Mazlish suggested "parent time-out" as alternative to child time-out, recently shown harmful in research.
Is "Parent Time-Out, Not Child's (Faber)" suitable for beginners?
Its difficulty level is: Intermediate. No external tools required — it can be practiced directly inside the app.

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