Before negotiation, negotiate with self: want? accept? refuse?

Link new habit to existing — "after established X, I'll do new Y".

Any new habit, start with 2-minute version — until established.

Pick three tasks that make today a success regardless of anything else, and finish them before noon.

3 morning tasks = day succeeded.

Anchor new goal to existing established habit — success rate doubles.

Instead of "I want to run a marathon", say "I'm a runner" — identity drives behavior.

Before writing, describe reader in 5 sentences: age, job, knows, doesn't know, decision he makes.

Map your boundaries across five layers (physical, emotional, time, material, digital) on a single page.

When he opens sensitive topic, say "tell me more" vs reply.

Before starting each morning, write three tasks that, alone, would make the day a success.

Define 3 tasks before opening any app — this is what success looks like today.

Every doc type written 3+× yearly has template — write once, use forever.

Who influences whom? — draw network to know "who talks to whom to shift decision".

Complete "I'm a leader who…" 7 times without mentioning your job title. Identity is deeper than role.

Set a clear limit but offer an acceptable alternative — "No throwing, yes to the sponge ball."

Apply Gottman's five steps: notice, see emotion as opportunity, listen, label, set limits and solve.

Say firm "no" with warm "I understand" — Janet Lansbury's classic formula.

Anchor a new habit to an existing one ("after brushing teeth, read one page") — BJ Fogg formula.

30 minutes each Sunday to reset the family home — tidy, plan, prep.

Anchor reading to a fixed daily activity (breakfast, car, bedtime) so it requires no decision.

Assign the model a specific background and expertise so its answer matches a real expert level.

At any moment, one tab, one window, one task — multitasking is a neural myth.

Don't repeat instructions every message — set them once in System Prompt, save 70% writing time.

Each scroll-urge, execute pre-defined substitute (10 breath cycles, drink water, 5 squats).

Yearly: 5 most-impactful books, 3 completed courses, 10 mastered skills. Your learning narrative.