Replace investigative "why?" questions with the invitation "tell me more" to open the story.

After your child talks, summarize in your own words — he confirms you heard and corrects if wrong.

Instead of solutions, ask GROW: Goal-Reality-Options-Will — let person craft his solution.

After hearing your partner, reflect back three sentences: content, feeling, and underlying value.

When he opens sensitive topic, say "tell me more" vs reply.

A tantrum aims to get something; a sensory meltdown is a total loss of control — each requires a completely different response.

At any moment, one tab, one window, one task — multitasking is a neural myth.