Audit your closest 5 via a relationship grid: who adds, who drains, who mirrors your values.

Prepare 10 deep questions before any coffee chat — converts pleasantries to relationship.

Create sheet of your 100 key relationships, last contact, next planned.

Each December, classify 50 people: adds/drains/neutral — adjust your time.

After hearing your partner, reflect back three sentences: content, feeling, and underlying value.

Apologize with: name the act, the impact, take ownership, repair step. No "sorry if...".

Each day, tell one person about a specific act they did or a precise quality — no "you are great".

Trade six escalating-depth questions with a close person to deepen intimacy in 30 minutes.

Each policy override: log why, who approved, when reviewed.

30 days before audit: self-review controls — find gaps before auditor does.

90 days into contract: review with vendor — don't wait for renewal to find issues.

Monthly review 3 questions about what actually gets time — kids or work.

Delete any app unopened in 30 days — lose apps before they cost you focus.

Don't subscribe to a new tool before truly using it 14 days in real workflow.

Each month's start, search your name on Google and review the first 3 result pages.

Replace all reused passwords in 30 days. One manager, one strong master.

Enable 2FA on email, bank, social, cloud. TOTP not SMS. Backup codes saved.

Every 6 months, download backup from Google/Apple/Meta. Backup + your right.

Every browser extension can read your visible pages. Delete what you haven't used in 30 days.

On public WiFi: always VPN + no banking + 2FA even if feeling safe.

Phone encrypted by default, but your laptop? Check. If stolen, data exposed.

Don't ask AI "write in author X's style". That = using their commercial style sans permission.

Before adding a new tool, verify it doesn't duplicate a job an existing tool already does — overlap costs more time and money than it saves.

Review every app with access to camera, microphone, location, or contacts, and revoke every permission not actually needed.