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11 results (expanded search) for "holding"
Administrative
Pre-Drafted Crisis Holding Statement
Before all facts are known, issue a ready holding statement within minutes saying "we know, we're acting" — not silence that invites speculation.
Parenting
Holding "Big Feelings"
Be the "big vessel" that contains your child's feelings without breaking — Becky Kennedy.
Leadership
Holding Steady Under Stakeholder Pressure
When stakeholders pressure you to abandon a necessary change because it's "uncomfortable", distinguish pressure that warrants stopping from pressure that's just expected resistance to change.
Social
The Daily Physical-Touch Check-In
Ask each other one simple daily question about the desired level of non-sexual physical touch.
Psychological
Half-Smile
Relax face muscles into half-smile — affects emotion.
Psychological
Willing Hands
Open hands, palms up — body signal for acceptance.
Social
Golden Silence
After partner answers, silent 4 sec — often continues with deeper info.
Social
Silent Presence
In deep grief, your silent presence deeper than 1000 advice.
Social
Listen Without Fixing
Don't try to "fix" friend's feelings — be a well that holds, not a tissue that wipes.
Leadership
Silence as a Coaching Tool
After every powerful question you ask, count a full 7 seconds of silence before speaking again — the deepest answers come after silence, not before it.
Social
Broken Record for Repeated Pressure
Repeat the same refusal in the same words calmly, no matter how the other person reshapes the pressure.