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Holding "Big Feelings"

Be the "big vessel" that contains your child's feelings without breaking — Becky Kennedy.

10 min Advanced

Goal

Build your capacity to stay present and steady during your child's big feelings without cracking, limits firm yet calm.

Steps

1

When the wave starts, tell yourself silently: "I am a vessel, not a mirror."

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Expected Outcome

Immediate

The wave ends, relationship intact, limit firm, you stayed yourself.

Evidence base

School: Good Inside — Becky Kennedy

Founders: Becky Kennedy · Donald Winnicott (2022)

Becky Kennedy builds on Winnicott's "holding environment": parents as a "vessel" that contains big feelings without breaking.

Frequently asked questions

How long does "Holding "Big Feelings"" take?

This exercise takes about 10 minutes, practiced with another person in a Somatic format.

When will I notice the effect of "Holding "Big Feelings""?

The wave ends, relationship intact, limit firm, you stayed yourself. In the short term: Within 4 weeks, wave intensity drops because he "discovered" his feelings don't break you.

Is "Holding "Big Feelings"" evidence-based?

Yes — it draws on Good Inside — Becky Kennedy (Becky Kennedy, Donald Winnicott (2022)). Becky Kennedy builds on Winnicott's "holding environment": parents as a "vessel" that contains big feelings without breaking.

Is "Holding "Big Feelings"" suitable for beginners?

Its difficulty level is: Advanced. No external tools required — it can be practiced directly inside the app.

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