Instead of "I want raise", say "I want 15% raise due to X and Y, effective Jan 1".

Put your negative thought on trial: what's the evidence for and against? Then judge.

Name your speaker's feeling and confirm it is reasonable, before you propose any solution.

After each event, log 3 moments of "connection" — evidence stacks against anxiety.

Write your catastrophic prediction pre-event and compare with what actually happened — evidence stacks.

30 days before audit: self-review controls — find gaps before auditor does.

Track last 100 support tickets — top 20 repeats = your FAQ page.

Don't wait for "he'll grow out of it" — a practical question list turning your vague worry into a specific teacher conversation.