Request one small, measurable step of greater responsibility, deliver it with documented excellence, then request the next step — not one big leap at once.

Build a 5-7 step ladder of social situations ordered from least to most anxiety, climb one rung per week.

Every 90 days, raise each delegated task one rung on the delegation ladder.

For each task and person: R responsible, A accountable, C consulted, I informed.

For each task, set the autonomy level (1: tell me before → 5: decide alone).

Per task: who Responsible, Accountable, Consulted, Informed — no duplication for first two.

Each child "owns" a chore, not "helps you" — ownership differs from helping radically.

Household chores precisely matched to each age — not random tasks that overestimate or underestimate capability.