Three tiny daily rituals (waking, reunion, bedtime) build the secure base for all of childhood.

Describe a "perfect day" in detail, then engineer goals to repeat it more.

Don't automate before knowing what's worth it — log a week, analyze, then act.

Autistic/ADHD child needs strong but not rigid routine — distinguish predictability from inflexibility.

Each week, spotlight a different talent per child — no comparisons.

One book nightly before sleep — no screens, no multiple stories. Consistency is the magic.