Before any development conversation, ask yourself: will I ask questions (coaching) or share my experience (mentoring)? Mixing them fails both.

Compare your skills to a dream job's requirements, identify 3 gaps to close in 90 days.

Every time you catch yourself doing a task, ask: who else? And why didn't they?

A 30-min conversation with a report: Goal, Reality, Options, Will — to grow their thinking instead of giving answers.

Memorize 10 coaching questions that open any conversation, replacing answers 80% of the time.

Instead of "will you be my mentor?", request a specific 30-min meeting around one question.

Instead of feedback on the past, ask reports for future suggestions — less defensiveness, higher application.

Determine if you multiply your team's intelligence or drain it via 5 specific leader behaviors.

Real development: 70% from hard assignments, 20% from relationships, 10% from training. Focus on the 70.