Use the visual emotion-wheel to pinpoint what your child feels before intervening.

8 primary emotions in a wheel, gradient and mixing — visual tool to discover yours.

Pick 3 emotions on a Plutchik wheel (level 2) you feel now — precise labeling = calm.

Replace "you seem upset" with wheel-precise: "you seem frustrated because...".

Teach your child 50 feeling words (not just "sad": frustrated, hopeless, let-down, broken). Precision = regulation.