Imagine a flower in one hand and a candle in the other — smell, then blow. Visual breathing for kids 4-10.

When he opens sensitive topic, say "tell me more" vs reply.

Don't analyze a problem from your desk. Go where it happens and observe 30 minutes before suggesting a fix.

Go to the workplace, observe yourself, ask "why" 3 times, don't intervene.

Sit beside your child during homework, don't solve for him. Your presence = support, not completion.

Prep IEP meeting with 3 documents + 5 questions + calm stance — no flare-ups.

In few-shot, deliberate variety (positive/negative/edge case) matters more than count.