Offer only two choices for each small decision — respecting his autonomy without losing yours.

Instead of solutions, ask GROW: Goal-Reality-Options-Will — let person craft his solution.

Delegate each task at one of five explicit levels instead of just "do it" or "don't".

Give every employee the right to halt the process instantly upon spotting a defect, without waiting for manager approval.

Instead of "delegate or not", define precise level: 1 (Tell) to 7 (Delegate fully).

Instead of directing reports, give them full context to decide confidently themselves. You do this as leader.

Instead of delegating "a task", delegate "an outcome". Report decides the how themselves.

5 questions every Friday: did reports decide without me? If not, why?

First diagnose: does the person lack an actual skill (competence), or have it but not trust using it (confidence)? The treatment is entirely different for each.

Teach your child to explain his own needs gradually — instead of remaining his only voice forever.