Frame every proposal: "we both win by..." — extinguishes competition.

When he opens sensitive topic, say "tell me more" vs reply.

Task 20% bigger than employee's current ability. Scares 30%, fails 30%, succeeds 40%. Difficult balance.

Praise your child's effort and strategy, not his intelligence or talent — Carol Dweck's classic.

In few-shot, deliberate variety (positive/negative/edge case) matters more than count.