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The Post-Conflict Repair Protocol
After both calm down from a conflict, run a structured 4-question dialogue to close it for real, not superficially.
Goal
Close marital conflicts for real, preventing them from accumulating as deferred resentment.
Steps
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Wait until both heart rates calm (at least 20-30 min after a heated conflict).
Expected Outcome
Immediate
Both feel genuine closure instead of a surface "let's move on".
Evidence base
School: Marital Research
Founders: John Gottman · Julie Gottman (2001)
Gottman — "After the Fight" post-conflict processing protocol prevents long-term "gridlock".
Keywords
#romantic#post-conflict#gottman#إغلاق-الخلاف#بروتوكول#social#dialogue#pair#marriage#couples#processing#gridlock#after-the-fight#ما-بعد-الخلاف#structured-dialogue#حوار-منظم#resentment#ضغينة-مؤجلة#trigger-identification#تحديد-الزناد#accountability#تحمل-المسؤولية#conflict-closure#إغلاق-فعلي#post-argument-dialogue#حوار-ما-بعد-الخلاف#pattern-recognition#التعرف-على-النمط
Frequently asked questions
How long does "The Post-Conflict Repair Protocol" take?
This exercise takes about 20 minutes, practiced with another person in a Inner dialogue format.
When will I notice the effect of "The Post-Conflict Repair Protocol"?
Both feel genuine closure instead of a surface "let's move on". In the short term: Repeated arguments about the same topic drop significantly within two months.
Is "The Post-Conflict Repair Protocol" evidence-based?
Yes — it draws on Marital Research (John Gottman, Julie Gottman (2001)). Gottman — "After the Fight" post-conflict processing protocol prevents long-term "gridlock".
Is "The Post-Conflict Repair Protocol" suitable for beginners?
Its difficulty level is: Advanced. No external tools required — it can be practiced directly inside the app.
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