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DESC Builder for Recurring Conflict
Describe, Express, Specify, Consequence — a template to disarm any recurring quarrel.
Goal
Transform a recurring complaint into a structured talk via DESC.
Steps
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D — Describe behavior precisely no interpretation: "When you're late 3 hours without a text".
Expected Outcome
Immediate
Partner leaves with a specific ask not a general complaint.
Evidence base
School: Assertiveness Training
Founders: Sharon Bower · Gordon Bower (1976)
Bower & Bower — Asserting Yourself: DESC is among the most reliable templates for constructive conflict.
Keywords
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Frequently asked questions
How long does "DESC Builder for Recurring Conflict" take?
This exercise takes about 20 minutes, practiced with another person in a Inner dialogue format.
When will I notice the effect of "DESC Builder for Recurring Conflict"?
Partner leaves with a specific ask not a general complaint. In the short term: Within 3 weeks "late no-text" drops ~80%.
Is "DESC Builder for Recurring Conflict" evidence-based?
Yes — it draws on Assertiveness Training (Sharon Bower, Gordon Bower (1976)). Bower & Bower — Asserting Yourself: DESC is among the most reliable templates for constructive conflict.
Is "DESC Builder for Recurring Conflict" suitable for beginners?
Its difficulty level is: Advanced. No external tools required — it can be practiced directly inside the app.
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