Each December, classify 50 people: adds/drains/neutral — adjust your time.

Sort 10 upcoming decisions into reversible/irreversible columns and set their speed.

Prepare 10 deep questions before any coffee chat — converts pleasantries to relationship.

Create sheet of your 100 key relationships, last contact, next planned.

After hearing your partner, reflect back three sentences: content, feeling, and underlying value.

Apologize with: name the act, the impact, take ownership, repair step. No "sorry if...".

Each day, tell one person about a specific act they did or a precise quality — no "you are great".

Trade six escalating-depth questions with a close person to deepen intimacy in 30 minutes.

Each expense: operational (OpEx) or capital (CapEx)? — different tax/accounting treatment.

90 days into contract: review with vendor — don't wait for renewal to find issues.

Show the model 2-5 examples of the desired output style so it mirrors the pattern with high precision.

Don't paste contracts, health data, or IP into a public model — may appear in later training.

In few-shot, deliberate variety (positive/negative/edge case) matters more than count.

Don't ask AI "write in author X's style". That = using their commercial style sans permission.