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"What Am I Forgetting to Ask You?"

After a deep talk, ask: "What do I need to ask that I haven't?" — a trust revealer.

8 min Intermediate

Goal

Open space for what the other hasn't said out of fear or oversight.

Steps

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After a 15+ min conversation, pause briefly.

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Expected Outcome

Immediate

They reveal something they haven't told anyone before.

Evidence base

School: Coaching / Vulnerability

Founders: Michael Bungay Stanier · Brené Brown (2016)

Stanier — The Coaching Habit: question seven ("what question haven't I asked?").

Frequently asked questions

How long does ""What Am I Forgetting to Ask You?"" take?

This exercise takes about 8 minutes, practiced with another person in a Inner dialogue format.

When will I notice the effect of ""What Am I Forgetting to Ask You?""?

They reveal something they haven't told anyone before. In the short term: The question becomes a permanent trust bridge.

Is ""What Am I Forgetting to Ask You?"" evidence-based?

Yes — it draws on Coaching / Vulnerability (Michael Bungay Stanier, Brené Brown (2016)). Stanier — The Coaching Habit: question seven ("what question haven't I asked?").

Is ""What Am I Forgetting to Ask You?"" suitable for beginners?

Its difficulty level is: Intermediate. No external tools required — it can be practiced directly inside the app.

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