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Time-In
Sit with your child in his upset instead of isolating him — your presence regulates his nervous system.
Goal
Replace punitive "time-out" with cooperative "time-in," using relationship as regulation tool.
Steps
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When your child loses control, come close but don't touch before his permission.
Expected Outcome
Immediate
The tantrum shortens by 50% because the child doesn't battle alone.
Evidence base
School: No-Drama Discipline + Co-Regulation
Founders: Daniel Siegel · Tina Payne Bryson (2014)
Siegel & Bryson in "No-Drama Discipline" show time-out activates rejection pain in the brain, while time-in regulates via neural sync with parent.
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Frequently asked questions
How long does "Time-In" take?
This exercise takes about 10 minutes, practiced with another person in a Somatic format.
When will I notice the effect of "Time-In"?
The tantrum shortens by 50% because the child doesn't battle alone. In the short term: Within a month, your child comes straight to you when sensing the wave instead of hiding.
Is "Time-In" evidence-based?
Yes — it draws on No-Drama Discipline + Co-Regulation (Daniel Siegel, Tina Payne Bryson (2014)). Siegel & Bryson in "No-Drama Discipline" show time-out activates rejection pain in the brain, while time-in regulates via neural sync with parent.
Is "Time-In" suitable for beginners?
Its difficulty level is: Advanced. No external tools required — it can be practiced directly inside the app.
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