Prepare 10 deep questions before any coffee chat — converts pleasantries to relationship.

Don't ask "be my mentor" — ask "20 min on specific decision" 6 times until relationship becomes natural.

After a deep talk, ask: "What do I need to ask that I haven't?" — a trust revealer.

Replace the rote "how are you" with "what was the best part of your week?".

Plan a monthly date with three fixed elements: a new activity, one deep question, no phones.

Collect 20 strong open questions fit for any coaching session, instead of improvising or repeating "how do you feel about that?" only.

Replace "how was school?" with a daily-varying open question that invites a story not "fine."